I’m looking forward to watching it today. I, too, attended a Gothard seminar, but it was in the 70s when he was just going to churches and hadn’t become a ‘thing’ yet. I thought it was silly—this young, single guy telling people how to raise their children. I couldn’t imagine what it would become.
I remember reading that in your book, probably because I escaped a similar situation. He was a great guy otherwise, but after we got engaged, the tremendously oppressive theological framework he lived in nearly swallowed me. I sensed that if I married him, I was falling into a pit that I might never escape, relinquishing every bit of myself in the name of submission. That is not what marriage should be. (And it wasn't even the guy that was asking for it. It was his mom and mentor who were pressuring me to make sure that I was doing this.)
I broke off the engagement. I felt such a tremendous mix of sorrow and relief. I was so angry at God because I didn't understand in the moment. Now I'm very happily married to wonderful man who elevates me and my gifts and would have it any other way. But at the time, I didn't know anyone else going through something like that. That was the mid 2000s and no one I knew was talking about that. I'm glad to see this movie coming out. Hopefully it serves not just as a warning, but an encouragement and hope to those still living in this darkness.
Watching it with two friends tomorrow night! Two of us just read The Well-Trained Wife by Tia Levings so it will interesting to watch it with that as the background.
Thank you for this Beth, and I am so sorry for what you endured and how you’ve been treated throughout your truth telling about these spaces and your experiences. Thank you for amplifying our voices. Much love and many thanks
I’m looking forward to watching it today. I, too, attended a Gothard seminar, but it was in the 70s when he was just going to churches and hadn’t become a ‘thing’ yet. I thought it was silly—this young, single guy telling people how to raise their children. I couldn’t imagine what it would become.
Thanks for the tip. I had not heard of this film yet. 💜
I remember reading that in your book, probably because I escaped a similar situation. He was a great guy otherwise, but after we got engaged, the tremendously oppressive theological framework he lived in nearly swallowed me. I sensed that if I married him, I was falling into a pit that I might never escape, relinquishing every bit of myself in the name of submission. That is not what marriage should be. (And it wasn't even the guy that was asking for it. It was his mom and mentor who were pressuring me to make sure that I was doing this.)
I broke off the engagement. I felt such a tremendous mix of sorrow and relief. I was so angry at God because I didn't understand in the moment. Now I'm very happily married to wonderful man who elevates me and my gifts and would have it any other way. But at the time, I didn't know anyone else going through something like that. That was the mid 2000s and no one I knew was talking about that. I'm glad to see this movie coming out. Hopefully it serves not just as a warning, but an encouragement and hope to those still living in this darkness.
Watching it with two friends tomorrow night! Two of us just read The Well-Trained Wife by Tia Levings so it will interesting to watch it with that as the background.
Tia and I grew up in the same church at the same time. I am so proud of her work to so transparently expose her story. Thank you for watching
Her book was so powerful. Such a light shining in such very dark places.
Thank you for sharing this. Will watch it!
I would like to watch it, but when I searched YouTube, can’t find it. I can only find the trailer.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IkES4X_qb6c
I'm also a "lucky survivor" and got out without any physical abuse. Looking forward to watching and sharing this film.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IkES4X_qb6c Thank you for watching and thankful you got out
Thank you for being brave and sharing your story.
Thank you for this Beth, and I am so sorry for what you endured and how you’ve been treated throughout your truth telling about these spaces and your experiences. Thank you for amplifying our voices. Much love and many thanks